Jesus Is Not Part Of My Marriage

Notes

• The truth about what God has done in Christ should be reflected in the way that we live.
• Submission is a willingness to affirm and support a husband’s leadership in the home.
• Christ as head of the church means that he leads the church in ways that gives it life and nourishment. 
• A wife’s relationship to Jesus should not only inform but also define her relationship to her husband.
• The life of the Christian husband is a life of laying himself down for his wife.
• Marriages that imitate Christ glorify Christ.
• We compliment more than we criticize.
• We use love languages.
• We are learning to operate on a grace-based system, not a works-based system.

Verses

{Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:15-33 ESV}{...what is the immeasurable greatness of his power toward us who believe, according to the working of his great might that he worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion, and above every name that is named, not only in this age but also in the one to come. And he put all things under his feet and gave him as head over all things to the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills all in all. Ephesians 1:19-23 ESV}{Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love. Ephesians 4:15-16 ESV}{He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed 1 Peter 2:22-24 ESV}{And you, who were dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of the your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands. This he set aside, nailing it to the cross Colossians 2:13-14 ESV}{For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. Mark 10:45 ESV}

Quotes

Elisabeth Elliot : Somehow marriage has insinuated into women’s cozy lives this unpredictable, unmanageable, unruly creature called a man. He is likely to be bigger and louder and tougher and hungrier and dirtier than a woman expects…She learns that what makes her cry makes him laugh. He eats far more than seems necessary or even reasonable to a woman who never ceases her vigil against excess weight. (Let Me Be a Woman);